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Being around people that take your spirit and energy and leave you with a lack of self-worth is exhausting for you but empowering to them.
It is like they want to make sure that you are dragged into a negative mindset in order for them to feel good about themselves.
This seems to give them a sense of control in all areas so that they feel the most powerful, demanding as much attention as they can get.
By hurting your self-identity, this allows them to feel that they can control you, others, situations, and circumstances to make sure they do not lose control.
Yes, it can be hard to resist, especially in relationships, but it can be done. You can start shifting into a different direction to where you can keep a positive mind and stay the course of avoiding the traps that bring you down.
You must constantly feed your Spirit, Mind, and Associations for support.
To feed your Spirit, read and intake as much positive content as you can.
To feed your Mind, stay focused on setting Goals and seeing them through to the finish.
Establish Associations with friends and family that encourage and build you up to help you grow your confidence.
When applying these actions, you will see a change in every area over time. Just remember to be patient and consistent.
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